divorce-party-planning

Picture this – your best friend has just gotten out of a terrible (probably depressing) marriage and she wants to celebrate. Would you go? Would you want to celebrate the downfall of her marriage? Or would you see it as celebrating her freedom?

Divorce parties are all over Hollywood and I am not sure what to think about them. What do you think ?

I like the idea of a party to re-connect with friends and to share with them your strength for having made a life changing step. (Walking away can be harder than staying). But I hate the idea of a bitter twisted throw the groom of the cake (as seen above ) type angry party.

This is of course not just for the gals as guys get their hearts broken too. Such as the guy above who is knocking the heck out of a broken heart pinata. (We should find the DIY for that).

Share your thoughts below, but please keep it nice and respectful of others thoughts.

Looking for Divorce Party Ideas? Check out the Pinterest board.

By Shellie Wilson




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11 Comments so far

  1. ALOC on July 26, 2013 11:49 am

    One celebrates when one has accomplished something good and/or positive. While a divorce is sometimes necessary it is definitely not good or positive. In most cases I believe that divorce is the result of the failure of two people. Most of the time children are very negatively affected by divorce! What is to celebrate? Behavior in Hollywood is not something I would want to emulate.

  2. Susan Delaney on July 26, 2013 11:55 am

    While there was much to celebrate when I divorced twelve years ago, there was also a sense of letting go of a dream. I threw a housewarming party, once I got all of the boxes unpacked. There was no mention of the divorce, although all present knew of my change of status and many present had supported me in the transition. It was more of a “I’m OK and I’m Moving On and Thanks for Your Support” party than anything else. It was bright and hopeful and filled with joy.

  3. Mrs B. on July 26, 2013 12:35 pm

    We have thrown “divorce showers” before. When some of our friends have split up we host a “shower” for the one setting up a new home. (Usually it’s the guy who has left the marital home and has nothing) We encourage the guest to “shop” around their own home for items that are extras or not wanted, to help set up the new home.

  4. SC on July 26, 2013 12:38 pm

    No- I think that is so sad and bitter. Celebrate the ending of something that was supposed to be so special? I think it just makes you look petty-have a little dignity.

  5. My 2 cents on July 26, 2013 12:41 pm

    Looking at the pinterest boards, they are down right nasty and some very immature. I think these “ladies” have forgotten that at one time they loved their husbands and they must have had some good qualities and that it takes two to make or break a marriage. I can see having a “Next Chapter” party but it needs to be without bashing the other partner.

  6. Susan on July 26, 2013 1:17 pm

    Tacky. If your friends want to take you out or have you over to their home to show support, fine. Even inviting friends to join you just to get together or see your new home (if any) would be ok. But throwing a party to celebrate a divorce, no matter how necessary, is just in poor taste, or at least that’s my take.

  7. Debbie on July 26, 2013 1:49 pm

    I think it is tacky. Ending a marriage is a sad thing, even when it is justified. Now, a “freedom” party would be a better idea.

  8. Mrs B. on July 26, 2013 2:14 pm

    We have attended Divorce showers, usually right after the break up and one of the parties is now setting up a new home (usually they guy). Typically we all clean out the extra’s from home to help set up the new place, ie extra bedding, dishes etc.

  9. Sandy on July 26, 2013 3:21 pm

    Personally, I say, “Why not?”. I think it can be a great way to move on and let go.

    I do agree with you on the throw the groom off of the cake. I think that just makes the pain linger.

  10. Cath on July 26, 2013 11:56 pm

    Seems like they’re rehearsing the negativity, and thus exaggerating the pain and clinging to it. Better to keep it positive, in the vein of “I’m starting a new chapter of my life, and I still want to stay connected to my friends; help me out by showing you’ll still be there for me.” I’m sure it helps to examine the situation from all angles, good and bad, and reflect on them. Perhaps the inevitable expression of anger and bitterness is best dealt with in a more private setting, in a low-key way, with one or two friends or family members. Surely this kind of negative party would make others feel uncomfortable. Why drag them into it? Being strong and upbeat about a divorce would probably help either spouse as they move on, putting them in a healthier frame of mind than what I’m seeing here.

  11. Joanna on July 28, 2013 12:09 pm

    Parties are thrown to celebrate something. Why would one want to celebrate the fact that they cant get a working relationship or that someone has managed to get out of an abusive one?
    Hollywood people are strange.

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