“Save The Date” – Are they actually necessary?

savethedateWikipedia says : A save the date is a notice stating the date of a significant event such as a wedding. It is typically sent to those likely to be interested or affected by the event and states the planned date of the occasion so that recipients who wish to attend know to keep that date free.

OK so why not just send out the invitations? Have we really become so busy that now we need to get an invitation to “save the date” because another “actual” invitation is pending?

So is it really necessary? What are your thoughts? Did you send only invitations or did you do the whole “Save the date” thing too? And I am not just talking about weddings. I am talking about all parties and events. Maybe your facebooked your event and didn’t actually send out an invitation at all?

If you’re looking for some fun “Save the Date” ideas then check out these pinterest boards.




  1. Jean says

    Save the Date’s are important for a number of reasons with the most important being…
    booking airlines in advance
    booking hotels in advance
    arranging for babysitting and housesitting
    allowing guests to possibly budget and save for said hotel and flights

    Invitations have the time and the place of an event. Those details might not be secured when a Save the Date is sent. I LOVE Save the Date’s.

  2. Kim says

    I think that if you send these, you are expecting to go to the main event, don’t send me one if I am being invited to the evening do, for the reasons stated above. I don’t want to arrange my life around your wedding and only come for an hour! That is unacceptable!

  3. says

    We just sent the invitations. The first thing we did was book the venue, so we had the time, place and date all set early on. We knew almost all of my family would have to travel and stay overnight, so we wanted to make it as simple as possible. We got married in a hotel and did the reception there too, so we made a blanket reservation of half a dozen rooms which were held without deposit for 1 month, so people who wanted to book one of those rooms had an entire month to do so. If the rooms weren’t taken, they would be let out to other guests instead.

    If people get their butts in gear and sort out the time and place from the start, they can just send out the invitations and not have the extra hassle and expense of the “save the date” thingies.

  4. says

    What Jean said! Save the Dates are the absolute best! They are also a great way to keep your (organization’s) name (and mission) in front of people and gives you a reason to be in touch — not just with the invitation, but with any event-planning news. For example, I’ve followed up StDs with asks for art judges, etc.

  5. says

    hear hear. my wedding guests had to decide what they wanted to eat in advance, we hadn’t chosen the options 6 months in advance so sent out save the dates.

  6. Janie says

    Save the dates are ridiculous, and just another way to waste money on an already expensive event. Invitations should be sent with plenty of time for most people to make arrangements if they want to. If someone is close enough to you to actually come from far away for your event, then why not just tell them the date?

  7. says

    Maybe “save the dates” are becoming more popular as the trend for long engagements increases?
    We only had a 6 month engagement, so we viewed “save the dates” as a complete waste of our time and money. When we announced our engagement, we told everyone we planned to invite (especially interstate or overseas guests) when the wedding would be and sent out wedding invitations as soon as the reception venue was booked.

  8. says

    I do not know the origins, but know that for decades (at least) save-the-dates been used when one knows the date of an important event but not other necessary specifics. Rather than their being new to our modern busy lifestyle, I’ve seen them used less often just over the course of my lifetime (I’m 43). I attributed it to our society becoming so much more casual, and assumed they were a hold-over from when people had to get their wedding invitations engraved, before thermography was used for them, and way before one could print them from home – back when snail mail was the best option of informing family and friends of coming events. But that part I could be wrong about.

  9. Emily says

    Save the date has been around for a long time. During the wedding/graduation season, sending out a save the date a year in advance was important to ensure that our guests would be able to plan to book the flight, reserve a room and have the event not conflict with other dates. There is no one size fits all in this world anymore. If there are options to make life easier for everyone, for communications to be clear, why write a negative article?

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